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Since 2005, I have been helping women with my hypnotherapy techniques to drink less alcohol. When I started my career in hypnotherapy, I didn't expect to be working with alcohol reduction. But, early on I realised that women were drinking more alcohol than they wanted. And so began my journey to help women by incorporating hypnosis alcohol reduction as part of their therapy session. Gradually word got around that I had the solution to help women reduce their drinking. Streams of women began flooding through my hypnotherapy clinic doors.

Dealing with the issues of why women drink

The hypnotherapy alcohol sessions, offered women a dedicated and safe-space to discuss their challenges and talk about their alcohol drinking. By tailoring each hypnotherapy appointment; to break the drinking habit and by dealing with the issues behind the drinking; women were being set free. My work changed the subconscious beliefs in the deep part of their minds. My job was becoming ever more rewarding as I saw endless women take back control of their relationship with alcohol. Over and over I discovered that the stresses in women's lives were causing them to drink.

More women asking for help with alcohol hypnosis

It was clear at this stage which path my career was going down. Day in day out I was helping more women to change their alcohol intake. By now I was becoming known as the hypnotherapy alcohol reduction therapist. In the early days, my clinic was a small room in my house. But as time went on I rented a room in a clinic and began to offer phone appointments. My clients were now finding my services from all over the Uk and from other countries around the world.

Approximately 70% of clients are women aged thirty and upwards, but the vast majority are in their forties and fifties. I think more women are drinking than before, but I don't think women drink more than men. It is more likely that women seek to find help more than men usually do.

Why do women drink a glass of wine as a reward

In my experience, I find there are quite a few reasons why women drink. For working women with relatively young or teenage children usually, they drink due to the pressure of juggling everything. Women regularly have difficulty with at least one family member, problems in their marriage or issues with a personal partner. It is common for mothers to find parenting a considerable strain. Relationship issues added to work demands and financial worries can create unbearable stress.

Women's lives are taking their toll

Reaching for a large glass of wine can seem like a good option. Wine becomes an alternative to sorting out the problems in your life. Ignoring the household friction or your feelings and needs takes a toll. Gradually one glass becomes two. Then two glasses become a whole bottle. Alcohol becomes a comfort like a reliable friend. Before you know it you have begun to lose yourself. As women naturally are nurturers they have no boundaries of knowing when to stop giving. Family, house chores and work take over. By now you are in so deep you don't even know how to run your life. Alcohol has become a quick way to switch off - my time - my escape - my reward. And an alcoholic drink helps women to sleep even though they are already exhausted.

Stay at home mum stress

For some women, the strain of parenting is because they are staying at home. For now, they have put their career on hold. They worked so hard to get a job which it turns out doesn't fit their family needs. Guilt feelings set in. Should you be working? Is it right you are a stay at home mum? What message does this give your children? Would being a working mum inspire your daughters? Will your son think women should stay at home? What do your friends think of you? Does your mother-in-law judge you for not contributing? The repetitive thoughts in your head dissolve with a glass of wine. So it's good to drink. Right? Everyone else drinks. It is normal or least it seems this way.

Drinking alcohol makes women feel worse

Slowly you feel worse when you drink. You may be affected by a hangover in the morning. In the beginning, you may have used alcohol to help you to get you to sleep, but now the effects of drinking break your sleep. But you can't break free from the cycle of alcohol drinking. You feel trapped. Drinkers also worry about their health and the effects their drinking is having on their already volatile relationships.

It is easy to have a drink

Then there is drinking more alcohol because you are bored or lonely. The kids are in bed. Perhaps you are single, or your partner is busy, and you feel alone and may as well be single. Then there are the women who don't have children, so they give their all to work. Drinking is part of their work culture. Alcohol is part of the job. And drinking is fun.

The kids have grown up and flown the nest which has left you with an emptiness in their life. There is a void that needs filling. What will you do to fill your time or to make something of yourself and career? The workplace has moved on in the last ten to twenty years. You can no longer hide behind the achievements of your children as the spotlight is now on you. What are you are doing? You might enjoy your freedom since your family have moved on or you may be retired meaning you can have a drink now as you don't need to get up early tomorrow. A drink fills the gap of whatever is going on.

Drinking has crept up over time

For some women, drinking has just crept up over time, and it has become a habit. You have always had wine or gin to celebrate or commiserate. The drink is a way of life. Life would be boring without alcohol. Everyone drinks. Your life revolves around drinking. You don't remember a time when alcohol wasn't part of your life. But alcohol is addictive, so there is that element too. When you do try to slow down, reduce or stop drinking you find it is not easy.

How can women break the cycle of drinking

Women's lives are constantly changing, and every woman is different. What is needed is to manage problems as they arise whatever your circumstances. Hypnotherapy offers support to help transform your mindset to steer your life in the best direction for you. One-to-one sessions or hypnosis downloads help to overcome challenges and break the habit of drinking too much. Hypnotherapy works by releasing cravings and adjusting your relationship with alcohol on a subconscious level so that alcohol becomes less attractive. By improving confidence, relationships, finances and career, you can create a brighter future while being in control of your drinking. Anything is possible with the right mindset. Letting go of alcohol is incredibly liberating.

You can find out more about one-to-one alcohol hypnotherapy phone appointments with Ailsa Frank or the hypnosis download Stop binge drinking for women Read the addictions chapter of my book Cut the Crap and Feel Amazing published by Hay House

Your skills are the most valuable asset you have

Most people will earn their money from their unique set of skills. Look at what your skills are with people or with work then embrace them, build upon them and use them wisely. If you are feeling stuck or want change in your life, be patient. Plan well. Build upon who you are already. Work hard. Be polite. Be kind. Create a worthwhile route forward for yourself but don't underestimate the skills you already have. Also, remember every experience good or bad will have built some skills which you can draw upon throughout your life.

When I became a hypnotherapist I didn't just stop doing my previous job. I earnt money from my existing career whilst I built my new hypnotherapy business. It took several years before I was earning full-time money from hypnotherapy and my writing work. Keep very focused and be sensible. Rome was not built in a day!

You can read more about cutting the negative from your life and creating an amazing life, in my book, Cut the Crap and Feel Amazing published by Hay House Or try my hypnosis downloads from my website. Titles include Increase your wealth, Time management, Release everyday stress, Build confidence and more...

Best wishes

Ailsa

One to one hypnotherapy phone sessions with Ailsa cost £150 each, usually, 2-4 appointments are required. Or listen to a combination of hypnosis download recordings from the Ailsa Frank .com website shop to tackle the various issues in your life. To make inquiries about booking Ailsa as a motivational speaker or workshop host please reply to this email.

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3 techniques to help you to stop feeling lonely

Are you feeling lonely even though people are around you? Or are you actually on your own too much of the time?

Studies have shown that we do need the company of others in social interaction to live a long and healthy life. Just speaking to the person in the local shop can make a difference. But on the other hand, people can feel alone in a busy life when they feel others don't understand them or give them the space they require.

To get yourself into new positive thinking make your phrase of the month "I am happy with my own company and relaxed in the company of others".

Here are 3 tips to help:

1) This is who I am -  Simply accept this is who you are and this is how you feel. By accepting your feelings you can then focus to rectify them. Know you have the ability to steer your life in the direction you want it to go by making new choices to change the issues which you are facing. "It is okay to feel how I do. I can change things for the better."

2) Imagine you are surrounded by people - Feel the feeling of being surrounded by people who care about you. Visualise a positive interaction with other people. If you have people around who are too overwhelming then see them reduced down in size so they feel more manageable. Imagine laughing with people and you can also smile to lift your mood which will help.

3) Plan ahead - Work out when the lonely times occur in your week then plan ahead to avoid these by make arrangements to fill these times. Be proactive by arranging to meet with friends, family, social or hobby groups to fill your diary up with like-minded people. Enjoy your time alone by doing the things you like such as cooking your favourite food and watching a movie you want to see. Get out of your home each day to be around people in the shops, parks and cafes. Relax into life as you realise this is a phase of your life, enjoy this time as much as you can. If your life is too busy, meaning you need more time alone, have the confidence to create time for yourself. It is all about getting everything into balance.

You can read more about how to find the amazing in your life in my book Cut the Crap and Feel Amazing (published by Hay House). Or try my Release Fear of Rejection or Stop Worrying hypnosis download.

One to one hypnotherapy phone sessions with Ailsa cost £150 each, usually, 2-4 appointments are required. Or use a combination of hypnosis download recordings from the Ailsa Frank.com website shop to tackle the various issues in your life. To make inquiries about booking Ailsa as a motivational speaker or workshop host please reply to this email.

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Become aware of your worries so you can let them go

Are your words fuelling your anxiety? Is your automatic response to look for the drama or worry about things that do or don't exist?

To get yourself into new positive thinking make your phrase of the month "I am ready to find the positive in everything".

Here are 3 tips to help:

1) This is where I am - Simply accept this is where you are in life right now. Accept whatever has happened or is happening, hold your hands up and surrender to where you are in life. Then write down what is worrying you, or what you would like to change, so you can begin to make a plan of action to do things differently to enhance your life moving forward. By holding 'where you are' in your hands and accepting it exists you can begin to let go of the battles in your mind.

2) Be aware of what you are saying - Start to notice the conversations you have with yourself or other people. What topics are you discussing, are they negative and fuelling your stress, are they making you anxious? Try to focus on more positive things happening around you and turn your internal conversations with yourself into reassuring sentences such as "I can live a really comfortable life. I can feel comfortable in my life. I can create a happy life. I can be safe. I am safe and everything is fine."

3) Remind yourself when things worked out well - Everyone faces challenges in their everyday life, some more difficult than others but, by focussing your mind on previous times you overcame things it will remind you that life has a way of working out well. You can and you will get through whatever is going on right now.

You can read more about how to let go of worries in my book Cut the Crap and Feel Amazing (published by Hay House). Or try my Stop Worrying hypnosis download.

One to one hypnotherapy phone sessions with Ailsa cost £150 each, usually, 2-4 appointments are required. Or use a combination of hypnosis download recordings from the Ailsa Frank .com website shop to tackle the various issues in your life. To make enquiries about booking Ailsa as a motivational speaker or workshop host please reply to this email.

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Techniques for letting go of your worries

More people are worried about everyday life and the events happening in the news. We are more connected than ever before through every type of technology device which means we hear about other peoples worries and problems more too. In the past, if a friend or relative had a drama you may never have known about it or by the time you heard about it the incident would have resolved. But more people share a running commentary about the worries and problems in their daily life than ever before. Taking on board the stress of other people can cause you extra anxiety which can lead to over worrying. But how do you stop your mind from spiraling?

A worry is usually a lot of small worries, let's say like this bunch of balloons. Imagine each balloon represent a small worry. Lots of small worries added together can create an overwhelming anxiety. But if you break down the worries into small things you will find each small worry is manageable. I suggest you try to identify the small things that are creating the bigger worry. When you release the smaller things the bigger worry will eventually automatically release. Typical worries can be not sleeping properly, worrying about the future, worrying about a friend or relative, worrying about being too busy or too lonely, worrying about money today or your pension in the future, or debt such as credit cards or how you will pay off your mortgage.

Exercise

Imagine in your mind the bunch of balloons. Each balloon represents one of your worries. Then imagine letting go of each balloon one by one as you imagine letting go of your problems such as the sleep issues, money problems, family stress, work pressures or whatever is going on in your life. Practice releasing the balloons in your mind but also work on cutting the things out of your life which causes the worries. You can imagine the balloons floating up in the air any time you feel yourself worrying. Over time your mind will get into the habits of moving problems on by rather than being overloaded by them.

You can read more about my hypnotherapy methods for reducing stress and worries in my book Cut the Crap and Feel Amazing (published by Hay House).

One to one hypnotherapy phone sessions with Ailsa cost £150 each, usually, 2-4 hypnosis appointments are required. Or use a combination of hypnosis download recordings from my website shop to tackle the various issues in your life.

To make inquiries about booking Ailsa as a motivational speaker please email info@ailsafrank.com

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Solutions to help you cope with anxiety in social situations

I think everybody at some point has felt slightly anxious or awkward going into a situation. Nowadays it's becoming more common with more people suffering from it.

Three things I would say to help you:

1. Change your state of mind.  The feeling is in your body because your mind has created it. So by changing your mindset, you will feel better in your body. So for this, you could imagine someone who is really confident - perhaps Simon Cowell who is really over the top. Imagine stepping into their body, imagine how it would feel, their posture, being relaxed. Then bring that feeling into your body.  Imagine yourself having that comfortable feeling. You can practice this anytime or place.
2. Learn to reassure yourself.  Remember you are not alone - someone confident can be feeling nervous too. This feeling is something that you have learned to do from the fear of the unknown. If you do feel any anxiety coming on, reassure yourself by saying "I am fine.  I am going to be ok. This is fine. This is ok, I am doing really well. This is really really fine. I am going to be ok". Consciously relax your body.
3. Before and after the event.  To help you feel comfortable about going to an event, see in your mind events going well, speaking to people, having plenty to say, and laughing.  It's always good to ask someone a question to get a conversation going. Imagine it is after the event, you are on your way out of that event, leaving and coming home and imagine it has gone really well, and you are really relaxed, you are smiling.

Something you can do when you are in social settings so that other people don't feel anxious is always invite people into your group if you are standing and chatting.  If you see someone there just make way for them to join in as well because if you do that for someone else, someone one day will do that for you.

You can read more about my hypnotherapy methods for reducing social anxiety in my book Cut the Crap and Feel Amazing (published by Hay House).

One to one hypnotherapy phone sessions with Ailsa cost £150 each, usually, 2-4 hypnosis appointments are required. Or use a combination of hypnosis download recordings from my website shop to tackle the various issues in your life.

To make inquiries about booking Ailsa as a motivational speaker please email info@ailsafrank.com

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Make time each day to boost your self-belief

Often you can find yourself at the bottom of your list of priorities because you lack the confidence to respect and value yourself as work, family, and friends can get in the way.

Get into new positive thinking by making your phrase of the month "I am ready to believe in myself".

Here are 3 tips to help:

1) Create a new positive conversation - Begin each day with a positive chat with yourself. Use this time to list all the great things about yourself and your achievements so far. Congratulate yourself with phrases such as "Well done me" or "You are AMAZING". Get into the habit of speaking positively to yourself even if you don't fully believe the compliments initially. Eventually, you will believe the things you tell yourself and you will find you start to change your behaviour allowing yourself to be more confident.

2) Protect time for yourself - With busy lives, people often rush from one week into the next without really recharging their batteries during the weekend. Other people's lives can take over your own, so make a conscious effort to find time each week to do things you love. If you have children it is important to let them see you enjoying yourself too. Life shouldn't just revolve around your kids as they could grow up with a selfish attitude expecting their partners to run around them. Teach your daughters and sons about the importance of Mums and Dads taking care of themselves too. So when they grow up they will look after themselves and expect their partners to do the same. Lead by example and have the confidence to put yourself first at some point every week.

3) Identify any issues that need addressing - Notice when and where you lack confidence then visualise those situations going well. For instance, if you lack confidence at work see yourself handling things competently. If you lack confidence being around certain people imagine them respecting you or even looking up to you. If you lack confidence about the way you look imagine looking and feeling great, see yourself taking care of yourself with healthy eating, sensible exercise and looking good in your clothes.

You can read more about improving your confidence in my book Cut the Crap and Feel Amazing (published by Hay House). Or try my Build confidence and self-esteem hypnosis download.

One to one hypnotherapy phone sessions with Ailsa cost £150 each, usually, 2-4 appointments are required. Or use a combination of hypnosis download recordings from the Ailsa Frank .com website shop to tackle the various issues in your life. To make inquiries about booking Ailsa as a motivational speaker or workshop host please reply to this email.

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Hypnotherapy can improve your inner self-belief so that you can eliminate any fear of rejection or feelings of not being good enough, which may be holding you back

This month I am focusing on some techniques to help you overcome the fear of rejection. Whether it be in a social setting, a work interview, in a relationship or in everyday life we have all felt at least slightly awkward at some point with the feeling that we might not be good enough.

3 tips to help you feel good about yourself

1) The feeling of 'what if I am not good enough?' probably started at an early age. So for this exercise imagine a really confident version of yourself today, then visualise yourself starting school with this confident self-belief. Imagine your school, the pupils and the teachers are smaller in your mind, then imagine going into your first day of school feeling good about yourself. See yourself going through each year of your education with a new confidence. See yourself making friends easily and being popular in the class.

2) Re-write your history in your mind so you can overcome any past confidence knocks. Visualise things going as you would have liked them to turn out, such as see yourself getting the job, being wanted by someone you lost, being loved by a family member or being picked for the team. By seeing things going well you will override old habits of rejection which could be affecting you today.

3) Turn the conversation with yourself into optimistic phrases such as 'What if I succeed?', 'What if I get a great job?', 'What if people like me?', 'What if I am loved?'

You can also try my new 'Release Fear of Rejection' hypnosis download recording. This will allow you to make changes whilst you relax or sleep at bedtime, to find out more click here

You can combine my 'Build Confidence and Self Esteem' hypnosis recording with my hypnotherapy book Cut the Crap and Feel AMAZING. The techniques will help you to tailor your life by cutting out the negative habits so you can feel AMAZING. Chapter 5 will boost your confidence.

Best wishes
Ailsa

One to one hypnotherapy phone sessions with Ailsa cost £150 each, usually 2-4 appointments are required. Or use a combination of hypnosis download recordings from my website shop to tackle the various issues in your life.

Follow me on Twitter for more tips and advice @AilsaFrank
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Thank you to all those who emailed me testimonials recently. If you want to anonymously share your hypnosis success story please let me know by replying to this email. In return for your story, you will receive a free download hypnosis recording of your choice. Also, you can review my products on Amazon.

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