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  • Can you break the cycle of drinking alcohol?

    Is it time to break the cycle of drinking too much alcohol?

    Daily stresses, added to the distress of dealing with life issues, can turn people to drinking more alcohol. Alcohol addictions or drinking habits build up if you use alcohol as a way of numbing the challenges in life, of which there will always be some to deal with. The secret is to find new coping strategies to deal with life, without alcohol being an escape from what is going on.

    When you drink to a certain level your tolerance for alcohol becomes higher, and you don't feel drunk. You may feel fine and you might even be alright coping quite well. But there is a tipping point for everyone where you begin to drink more until your levels are unsafe or unhealthy. Alcohol can temporarily numb bad feelings, but in the end your emotions will need to be faced head-on for you to create a good life.

    Losing your tolerance

    Eventually, if you carry on drinking you will begin to lose your tolerance as your body may struggle to process the alcohol. You may begin to feel the alcohol sweat in your skin, have disrupted sleep and feel sluggish. Your liver may no longer be able to deal with the burden of the alcohol. The liver is the most forgiving organ in the body if you treat it well, as it regenerates regularly but eventually even the liver has its limit. A drinker can go on to develop liver disease, a swollen spleen and other complications.

    Has your drinking been creeping up over time?  Is your health progressively deteriorating? Are you struggling to see a way forward? Does a life without alcohol seem impossible? Are you more afraid of giving up drinking than you are of the health implications of drinking too much? Are you drinking to oblivion? Is your health progressively deteriorating? Has your drinking already affected your relationships?

    Alcohol and relationships

    The cycle of alcohol pushes the people you love further away. You may have become some of the following:  unreliable, unreasonable, abusive, lashing out, blacking out, being embarrassing, arguing, insulting, saying things you regret later, falling over, unable to communicate or unfaithful due to drinking.

    For those in relationships with a partner who has become alcohol dependent or an alcoholic, it can be a lonely, frustrating and destructive partnerships to be in. Alcohol can fuel the relationship problems then the relationship problems can fuel the drinking so you end up caught in a vicious circle. To cope with the alcohol adversity in the end alcohol becomes your companion and your partner becomes a distant friend. But the destructive relationship with alcohol can cause the drinker severe anxiety, panic attacks, and depression as well as the inability to perform at work. The endpoint to alcohol dependency can be a person sitting alone in a room with a bottle with no one left around them.

    Difficult life events can leave you spiraling down

    The following events can be catalysts for turning to a glass of wine, spirits or beer: a bereavement, work stress, family problems, ill-health with a family member, money stress or loneliness. But remember, these are all issues which can be resolved. People are coming through similar events all of the time. You just need to find a route through your challenges. It is good to identify what might be happening in your life that is leading you to drink too much.

    A client recently had a relationship breakup as a result of their own drinking being 'out of control'. They had gone beyond hearing or caring about what they were doing to themselves and loved one. This is a story I have heard over and over again. It can leave a partner feeling trapped with the only solution being to finish with the drinker.

    Breaking habits

    As a therapist helping people to break the habit of drinking, I hear the same things over and over again '  I don't want to put my girlfriend, boyfriend wife or husband through it again.' 'Alcohol crept up and just became the thing that I do'. 'The alcohol began controlling me rather than me being in control of the alcohol.'

    A life without alcohol can seem impossible but there are solutions to break the habit of alcohol and deal with the problems in your life, which may be causing you to drink to excess. I teach clients to become alcohol-free with hypnosis by reprogramming their subconscious mind which holds their drinking habits and distress habits of dealing with life problems. By improving the way people think it is possible to establish new, safe and healthy habits about alcohol.

    How to become alcohol-free

    I suggest you work on the subconscious level by listening to hypnosis downloads to break drinking habits or have one to one hypnosis sessions to re-program your thinking around alcohol and your life issues.

    I recommend my hypnosis recordings
    'Take control of alcohol'
    'Stop binge drinking for women'
    'Stop binge drinking for men'
    Also, my hypnotherapy book 'Cut the Crap and Feel Amazing' published by Hay House has an addictions chapter to help you take back control.


  • Have you ever felt you are not good enough?

    Hypnotherapy can improve your inner self-belief so that you can eliminate any fear of rejection or feelings of not being good enough, which may be holding you back

    This month I am focusing on some techniques to help you overcome the fear of rejection. Whether it be in a social setting, a work interview, in a relationship or in everyday life we have all felt at least slightly awkward at some point with the feeling that we might not be good enough.

    3 tips to help you feel good about yourself

    1) The feeling of 'what if I am not good enough?' probably started at an early age. So for this exercise imagine a really confident version of yourself today, then visualise yourself starting school with this confident self-belief. Imagine your school, the pupils and the teachers are smaller in your mind, then imagine going into your first day of school feeling good about yourself. See yourself going through each year of your education with a new confidence. See yourself making friends easily and being popular in the class.

    2) Re-write your history in your mind so you can overcome any past confidence knocks. Visualise things going as you would have liked them to turn out, such as see yourself getting the job, being wanted by someone you lost, being loved by a family member or being picked for the team. By seeing things going well you will override old habits of rejection which could be affecting you today.

    3) Turn the conversation with yourself into optimistic phrases such as 'What if I succeed?', 'What if I get a great job?', 'What if people like me?', 'What if I am loved?'

    You can also try my new 'Release Fear of Rejection' hypnosis download recording. This will allow you to make changes whilst you relax or sleep at bedtime, to find out more click here

    You can combine my 'Build Confidence and Self Esteem' hypnosis recording with my hypnotherapy book Cut the Crap and Feel AMAZING. The techniques will help you to tailor your life by cutting out the negative habits so you can feel AMAZING. Chapter 5 will boost your confidence.

    Best wishes
    Ailsa

    One to one hypnotherapy phone sessions with Ailsa cost £150 each, usually 2-4 appointments are required. Or use a combination of hypnosis download recordings from my website shop to tackle the various issues in your life.

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  • 20 inspirations to improve your life

    Inspiring techniques to help you improve your life

    1. Wave goodbye to excuses. Let them pass like clouds in the sky.
    2. Cut debt from your life to feel AMAZING. Spend less and earn more by using your skills.
    3. Smiling little and often will over time improve your life.
      Inspirations to improve your life.
    4. Laugh at life and feel AMAZING.
    5. This has happened but I can and I will turn it into something good.
    6. Every word you speak is shaping your life. Choose your words carefully.
    7. Piece your life together like a jigsaw puzzle and make it AMAZING.
    8. Let being a parent be a positive adventure.
    9. Your smile is the most AMAZING tool you have to improve your life.
    10. When you don't know the answer, presume things will work out AMAZINGLY well.
    11. You don't need to be 100% ready to give things a try...
    12. Let life be an adventure.
    13. You can carry on. You can get through this. You are doing it.
    14. You can find a way to make your life even better than it was before.
    15. The little things that make you smile will help you through your day.
    16. Goodbyes are opportunities for new hellos.
    17. What are we waiting for? Let's start living.
    18. You create your bad habits. But you can create good ones too.
    19. Appreciate the small things.
    20. Start with one thing, then another one thing until you have got everything done.

    You can read more in my hypnotherapy book Cut the Crap and Feel AMAZING which is published by Hay House. The chapters cover cutting the negative from your life covering topics such as relationships, money, career, parenting, stress, health and addictions such as alcohol and more...

    You can also find a selection of hypnosis downloads to help support you popular titles include Take Control of Alcohol, Stop Binge Drinking, Build Confidence and Self Esteem, Weight for Women, De-stress Your Life.....


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