Confidence

Solutions to help you cope with anxiety in social situations

I think everybody at some point has felt slightly anxious or awkward going into a situation. Nowadays it's becoming more common with more people suffering from it.

Three things I would say to help you:

1. Change your state of mind.  The feeling is in your body because your mind has created it. So by changing your mindset, you will feel better in your body. So for this, you could imagine someone who is really confident - perhaps Simon Cowell who is really over the top. Imagine stepping into their body, imagine how it would feel, their posture, being relaxed. Then bring that feeling into your body.  Imagine yourself having that comfortable feeling. You can practice this anytime or place.
2. Learn to reassure yourself.  Remember you are not alone - someone confident can be feeling nervous too. This feeling is something that you have learned to do from the fear of the unknown. If you do feel any anxiety coming on, reassure yourself by saying "I am fine.  I am going to be ok. This is fine. This is ok, I am doing really well. This is really really fine. I am going to be ok". Consciously relax your body.
3. Before and after the event.  To help you feel comfortable about going to an event, see in your mind events going well, speaking to people, having plenty to say, and laughing.  It's always good to ask someone a question to get a conversation going. Imagine it is after the event, you are on your way out of that event, leaving and coming home and imagine it has gone really well, and you are really relaxed, you are smiling.

Something you can do when you are in social settings so that other people don't feel anxious is always invite people into your group if you are standing and chatting.  If you see someone there just make way for them to join in as well because if you do that for someone else, someone one day will do that for you.

You can read more about my hypnotherapy methods for reducing social anxiety in my book Cut the Crap and Feel Amazing (published by Hay House).

One to one hypnotherapy phone sessions with Ailsa cost £150 each, usually, 2-4 hypnosis appointments are required. Or use a combination of hypnosis download recordings from my website shop to tackle the various issues in your life.

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Hypnotherapy can improve your inner self-belief so that you can eliminate any fear of rejection or feelings of not being good enough, which may be holding you back

This month I am focusing on some techniques to help you overcome the fear of rejection. Whether it be in a social setting, a work interview, in a relationship or in everyday life we have all felt at least slightly awkward at some point with the feeling that we might not be good enough.

3 tips to help you feel good about yourself

1) The feeling of 'what if I am not good enough?' probably started at an early age. So for this exercise imagine a really confident version of yourself today, then visualise yourself starting school with this confident self-belief. Imagine your school, the pupils and the teachers are smaller in your mind, then imagine going into your first day of school feeling good about yourself. See yourself going through each year of your education with a new confidence. See yourself making friends easily and being popular in the class.

2) Re-write your history in your mind so you can overcome any past confidence knocks. Visualise things going as you would have liked them to turn out, such as see yourself getting the job, being wanted by someone you lost, being loved by a family member or being picked for the team. By seeing things going well you will override old habits of rejection which could be affecting you today.

3) Turn the conversation with yourself into optimistic phrases such as 'What if I succeed?', 'What if I get a great job?', 'What if people like me?', 'What if I am loved?'

You can also try my new 'Release Fear of Rejection' hypnosis download recording. This will allow you to make changes whilst you relax or sleep at bedtime, to find out more click here

You can combine my 'Build Confidence and Self Esteem' hypnosis recording with my hypnotherapy book Cut the Crap and Feel AMAZING. The techniques will help you to tailor your life by cutting out the negative habits so you can feel AMAZING. Chapter 5 will boost your confidence.

Best wishes
Ailsa

One to one hypnotherapy phone sessions with Ailsa cost £150 each, usually 2-4 appointments are required. Or use a combination of hypnosis download recordings from my website shop to tackle the various issues in your life.

Follow me on Twitter for more tips and advice @AilsaFrank
Like my Facebook page Ailsa Frank Author and Hypnotherapist
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Watch my YouTube channel Ailsa Frank Hypnotherapy

Thank you to all those who emailed me testimonials recently. If you want to anonymously share your hypnosis success story please let me know by replying to this email. In return for your story, you will receive a free download hypnosis recording of your choice. Also, you can review my products on Amazon.

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Hypnosis has boosted my confidence

Alison, aged 38 yrs, sought confidence hypnotherapy to help her cope with work nerves, which she felt were hampering her chances of progressing her career.

Before the hypnotherapy:

'I would often avoid putting myself forward for work presentations or going away on work trips. I compare myself to other colleagues which makes me feel inadequate. I often put myself down with repetitive negative conversation about how rubbish I am. I avoid anything that takes me out of my comfort zone. The worse day I remember was when some clients flew in from abroad. I just froze in front of them during my presentation. I wanted the floor to swallow me up. I remember as a teenager I had a few minor embarrassing moments speaking in front of the class at school but as I have got older the feelings have got worse. I also feel self-conscious when out socially with people who I don't know well. At some functions, I have avoided dancing unless I have had a lot to drink. Using alcohol to cope with nerves has been a way of coping. But having recently curbed my drinking I decided it was time to tackle my nerves. I had read about hypnosis helping people with confidence issues. My life is full on with kids, work, and a husband. There is quite a lot of stress at home with general bickering. This makes it harder to focus on work so often I go to work feeling unprepared for things. I particularly hate unexpected work situations sprung on me, like a change of plan for a meeting or to the day's schedule. ' Alison said.

After the hypnotherapy:

'Since listening to the hypnosis tracks I have found my sleep has improved greatly. I get up in the morning ready to take on what the day throws at me. I seem to be handling the children better, I am aware now that they have been ruling the roost for too long. I have had a calmer approach when speaking to the children and a new confidence to claw back my power instead of giving in to their demands. At work, I have better eye contact as I feel more comfortable looking directly at people. I also noticed I feel more confident in the company of the staff who I manage. As I am friends with them it can be difficult to tell them what needs to be done but now I feel more at ease telling them. The other day I volunteered to chair a meeting, it was weird as I said I would do it, which felt kind of strange as before I would be slipping to the back of the room to avoid being asked. Several colleagues congratulated me on a great meeting. At home, I stood up for myself over some arrangements with my in-laws. My husband and I are getting along better. Generally, life is calmer. The changes happened gradually after listening to the hypnosis over several weeks. I intend to keep listening to the downloads to improve my life further.'

Boosting your confidence on an inner level can set you free to reach your true potential. Hypnotherapy is a great tool to change your old thinking habits to create a new more confident you.

For more information about hypnotherapy for confidence and self-esteem issues click here or to buy my Build Confidence and Self Esteem hypnosis download priced £14.99 click here

My book "Cut The Crap and Feel AMAZING" by Hay House will teach you how to get into the AMAZING zone and rise above the negative.