Ailsa Frank Blog
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When One Drink Turns Into Five: The Struggle to Stop
You never mean to overdo it. Just one to take the edge off, to transition from the day, to relax. But somehow, one becomes two. Two turns into four. And suddenly you’re finishing a bottle you never intended to open. This is the quiet struggle so many people face. Not rock-bottom addiction. Not reckless drinking. Just a subtle slide —... -
How Drinking Affects Your Physical Appearance Over Time
You may think you’re hiding it well — the extra glass here, the late nights, the need to ‘take the edge off.’ But over time, alcohol has a way of showing up… on your skin, in your eyes, and in the energy you carry. For many people, changes in appearance are one of the first clues that something’s shifted. You... -
The Aggression Link: Why Drinking Can Make You Angry
Understanding alcohol’s hidden impact on mood, reactivity, and emotional control You don’t plan to snap. But after a few drinks, the tone changes. The little things start to grate. You say things you didn’t mean. And afterward, you’re left asking yourself: Why did I react like that? Many people associate alcohol with letting go — loosening up, relaxing, feeling free... -
Is Parent Stress Fueling Your Drinking?
Exploring the hidden link between caregiving stress and alcohol habits You love your kids. You’re doing your best. But when parent stress and drinking begin to overlap — after the shouting, the spills, the mess, the guilt — a glass of wine feels like the only reward left. If parenting has quietly increased your drinking, you're not alone. Many mums... -
Successful in Life but Struggling with Alcohol?
From the outside, everything looks in control.You’re capable, responsible, maybe even admired. You’ve built a career, managed a home, kept things ticking along. But privately, alcohol feels harder to manage than it should — and you don’t know how it got this way. This blog is for the high achievers. The professionals, the perfectionists, the carers, the doers. The ones... -
Are You Drinking More After a Life Trauma?
Grief. Divorce. Illness. Redundancy.When life changes suddenly, so can our habits — often without us realising. In the aftermath of trauma or emotional shock, drinking after trauma often starts quietly — without us realising. At first, it may feel harmless: a glass of wine to calm the nerves, something to help you sleep, or just a way to feel less... -
How to Quit Drinking After Work: Breaking the Evening Habit
It often starts with a simple ritual — a glass of wine after a long day, a beer to unwind, a “reward” for getting through the hours of meetings, deadlines, and demands. It feels normal. Everyone does it. But what if that after-work drink has quietly become more than a one-off treat? For many people, evening drinking becomes an automatic... -
Alcohol-Free Summer: How to Enjoy Parties Without Drinking
When the sun’s out and the invitations roll in, it’s easy to feel like summer and drinking go hand in hand. Barbecues, beach days, weddings, and long light evenings — alcohol is often front and centre. But what if you want to enjoy summer without it? Going alcohol-free doesn’t mean missing out. In fact, it could mark the start of... -
How Alcohol Impacts Your Brain Over Time
You may notice it after a night out — the grogginess, the low mood, the fuzzy thinking. While alcohol might feel like it takes the edge off in the moment, over time, it can have a far more lasting effect on your brain than many people realise. Understanding what alcohol really does to your mind — and how you can... -
How to Handle Stress Without a Glass of Wine
It’s been a long day. Maybe the emails didn’t stop, the house is in chaos, or your nerves are frayed from yet another hard conversation. So you reach for a glass of wine — not to party, but just to pause. To unwind. To feel like yourself again. But what if there’s another way? For many people, alcohol has become...