hypnosis

  • Confidence boost story

    Hypnosis has boosted my confidence

    Alison, aged 38 yrs, sought confidence hypnotherapy to help her cope with work nerves, which she felt were hampering her chances of progressing her career.

    Before the hypnotherapy:

    'I would often avoid putting myself forward for work presentations or going away on work trips. I compare myself to other colleagues which makes me feel inadequate. I often put myself down with repetitive negative conversation about how rubbish I am. I avoid anything that takes me out of my comfort zone. The worse day I remember was when some clients flew in from abroad. I just froze in front of them during my presentation. I wanted the floor to swallow me up. I remember as a teenager I had a few minor embarrassing moments speaking in front of the class at school but as I have got older the feelings have got worse. I also feel self-conscious when out socially with people who I don't know well. At some functions, I have avoided dancing unless I have had a lot to drink. Using alcohol to cope with nerves has been a way of coping. But having recently curbed my drinking I decided it was time to tackle my nerves. I had read about hypnosis helping people with confidence issues. My life is full on with kids, work, and a husband. There is quite a lot of stress at home with general bickering. This makes it harder to focus on work so often I go to work feeling unprepared for things. I particularly hate unexpected work situations sprung on me, like a change of plan for a meeting or to the day's schedule. ' Alison said.

    After the hypnotherapy:

    'Since listening to the hypnosis tracks I have found my sleep has improved greatly. I get up in the morning ready to take on what the day throws at me. I seem to be handling the children better, I am aware now that they have been ruling the roost for too long. I have had a calmer approach when speaking to the children and a new confidence to claw back my power instead of giving in to their demands. At work, I have better eye contact as I feel more comfortable looking directly at people. I also noticed I feel more confident in the company of the staff who I manage. As I am friends with them it can be difficult to tell them what needs to be done but now I feel more at ease telling them. The other day I volunteered to chair a meeting, it was weird as I said I would do it, which felt kind of strange as before I would be slipping to the back of the room to avoid being asked. Several colleagues congratulated me on a great meeting. At home, I stood up for myself over some arrangements with my in-laws. My husband and I are getting along better. Generally, life is calmer. The changes happened gradually after listening to the hypnosis over several weeks. I intend to keep listening to the downloads to improve my life further.'

    Boosting your confidence on an inner level can set you free to reach your true potential. Hypnotherapy is a great tool to change your old thinking habits to create a new more confident you.

    For more information about hypnotherapy for confidence and self-esteem issues click here or to buy my Build Confidence and Self Esteem hypnosis download priced £14.99 click here

    My book "Cut The Crap and Feel AMAZING" by Hay House will teach you how to get into the AMAZING zone and rise above the negative.


  • Help, my parents are drunk

    Parents - are you a good role model for your kids or are you programming them to drink?

    Alcohol is part of the British culture but with home drinking becoming so popular is it time to reevaluate what affects it could be having on children who are seeing parents drunk.

    Busy lifestyles make it easy to slip into the habit of having a glass of wine or beer after a hard day but recent reports by Drinkaware suggest that 46% of 10-14-year-olds have seen at least one of their parents drunk. It is indicated that children who see their parents drunk are twice as likely to get drunk themselves.  It is also estimated that one in three children live with an adult binge drinker.

    Wine O'clock

    I  have found over the years that many of my clients drink alcohol when they’re getting the kids ready for bed or at bath time.  For some, it is easy to pour a glass of wine to unwind after a days work or to reward yourself for looking after the children. However, it is important to remember that everything a child experiences becomes part of who they are. A young person's subconscious mind absorbs information around them forming their core belief system. We are being hypnotised by the world around us.

    Whatever is normal to a child will feel normal to them as an adult so parents who drink could be programming children to drink themselves. Even if you don’t drink in front your children they will still pick up on alcohol habits by seeing the bottles of alcohol in the supermarket trolley or the empties the morning after in the recycling bin. Everything has an imprint on your child's mind so be careful as to what you are surrounding them with.

    I have treated hundreds of clients for reducing alcohol with hypnosis and many of them do drink in front of their children. I have also helped many teenagers with all sorts of issues from exam results and sports improvement to releasing stress and worries. My teenage clients often tell me that it can be upsetting or stressful to see their parents drunk.

    Regular drinking

    Alcohol is a drug but it is accepted as legally part of our society which gives people the green light to drink too much. Pubs and clubs are social hubs which should be there for occasional drinks but often lure people into a culture of drinking regularly. As it is cheap and easily available to drink at home over recent years it has become a daily ritual rather than something for the weekend.

    In everyday life, if someone doesn’t drink they are considered a bit of a “fuddy-duddy”. If you say you don't drink then people may think you are a recovering alcoholic. For this reason, many people can't imagine life without a drink as they want to be socially accepted by friends and family. Many peoples activities and lives may revolve around drinking. I tend to work with clients to help them reduce down although those who do want to stop altogether do so successfully. Here are some client stories to help you assess whether drinking in front of your children is a good thing or not?

    Hugos story (age 14)

    "My Mum thinks she is handling the drink really well but I notice she sways, slurs her words and is quite irrational when she has had a drink. In the morning she is more grumpy if she has had a lot of alcohol the night before. I hope I won't be like this with my children when I grow up. I am sure our Dad left us because of Mums drinking. It is hard to get any sense out of a parent who has had a few glasses of wine. I can see it in her eyes that she just switches off as she stops caring. She slumps on the couch with a glass of wine in her hand with the bottle on the coffee table. She tops up her glass until she finishes the bottle. I usually go to my bedroom before she starts saying silly things. Sometimes she wakes me up to tell me something because she doesn't realise it is late as she loses all sense of reality. One time she broke something I had made for a project at school. In the morning she didn't remember because she asked me why my model was broken which really irritated me. She thinks I am a typical moody teenager but actually it is her behaviour that makes me slam doors from frustration. She has no respect for herself or for me. How can I respect her if she is drunk?"

    Susans story (age 48)

    "I used to drink in my 20’s and 30’s, as a busy professional, it was just part of the job, everyone drank. My parents both drank so it felt perfectly normal that I would drink in front of my children. Although I never liked my parents when they were drinking as it made me feel on edge not sure which way to take them. I remember my son, aged about 5 at the time, saw me throwing up after I had mixed my cocktails. I was recently in a relationship with an alcoholic, and my son, now an impressionable 17-year-old, was witness to this mans extreme and drunken behaviour. When I later saw my son having spells of getting drunk, it was difficult for me to reprimand him as I was seen to have double standards.  It was much harder for me to assert ground rules. Teenagers have enormous peer pressure to drink neat spirits, it is seen as the norm. My son’s response was “Well Mum, you did it when you were my age.” what could I say to that? I would however in hindsight wished I had seen the damage I was doing by drinking in front of him when he was young. As a parent, I want to protect my son. If I could turn the clock back I would have drunk more sensibly and perhaps I would have a better relationship with my son.”

    Carolyn's story (age 42)

    "My drinking has caused a lot of tension between me and my husband which filters out to the whole family. It was only when I reduced my drinking, by listening to the "Take Control of Alcohol" hypnosis recording, that I realised my drinking was having a bad effect on my daughter's behaviour. She has been excluded from school before now which I suppose made me drink more. It became a vicious cycle of my drinking and her behaviour issues. I suppose I am not a very good role model for her when I crash out drunk because I finish a whole bottle of wine on a weekday. As I reined back my drinking with the hypnosis I found I was seeing the problems more clearly with my daughter. Once I was sober she began to listen to me as she had more respect for me. Taking back control of my drinking has enhanced not only my own well being, sleep, clarity but my families quality of life has improved too. The thought of wanting to stop drinking alcohol hung over me like a big black cloud for so long. Do I miss drinking? The answer is no way, I actually feel as if I have been handed a second chance and I have my life back. I don't miss drinking one bit. I just wish I had found the hypnosis downloads earlier. I don't want my children to see their parents drunk ever again."

    Chloe's story (age 18)

    "I just want to say my Dad reeks of booze sitting watching TV. He becomes really annoying when he tells us what to do. His head hangs down and sometimes he dribbles, it is disgusting. Mum and dad argue over his drinking which upsets me and my sister. I find it hard to take authority from someone who I have little respect for. He 's not an alcoholic, he goes to work and only drinks in the evenings but I don't think he should drink on a work night. I don't think it is fair to see your parents drunk. I worry about his health as he may get ill from drinking too much alcohol. I do drink as everybody does."

    Interested to curb your drinking?

    If you are interested to take back control of your drinking try my hypnosis downloads ‘Take control of alcohol recording to break daily drinking habits OR 'Stop binge drinking' for bouts of excessive alcohol drinking.  By reprogramming the mind the recordings will help break the bad habit of drinking and restore healthy sleep. It is easy to listen as with short tracks they can fit into your busy schedule either after work or at bedtime.  Just put the volume down low and let the messages wash over you whilst you sleep.  You will begin to see differences in your drinking such as pouring the dregs of wine away, leaving wine in the bottle for another day, having alcohol free nights, feeling like a herbal tea instead. You will find your mind makes different choices putting you back in control.

    Take Control of Alcohol - Click here
    Stop Binge Drinking for Women - Click here
    Stop Binge Drinking for Men - Click here

    Chapter 13 of my book "Cut The Crap and Feel AMAZING" by Hay House covers addictions and obsessions and will help you get back in control of your drinking


  • How can hypnosis help to reduce alcohol?

    How can Ailsa Frank hypnosis help you to reduce down alcohol consumption?

    Hypnosis for reducing alcohol works by breaking the bad habits in your subconscious which is the part of your mind that stores your habits and experiences. Your drinking behaviour probably built up over time.  The exercises I will talk you through during the hypnotherapy sessions or if you are using my hypnosis downloads will reprogram your mind with positive ways to feel and behave around alcohol.  My hypnotherapy techniques will release daily stresses and your patterns of association with alcohol. This will help create a more take it or leave attitude towards drinking. After the hypnosis you'll begin to make decisions such as only drinking socially, sticking to just one or two drinks at a time, throwing alcohol away when you know you have had enough, putting the cork or lid back on the bottle. If it's good for you to stop altogether then you probably will. When you are ready to fully let go you'll find yourself making different drink choices such as having a sparkling water or a cup of tea instead of alcohol. Most people prefer to just be in control of drinking rather than stopping altogether.

    Ailsa Frank Hypnosis methods

    The messages in the hypnosis recordings or the techniques used in a one to one hypnosis phone appointment will go into the deep part of your mind to release the drinking habits. The recordings and sessions deal with drinking triggers. When listening to the recordings it is best to lie down on a bed or sofa, put the volume down low and let the messages wash over you. You will only make safe changes at a pace you are ready to let go at.  My system of hypnosis releases the layers of drinking as well as the root causes. Afterwards, people feel more relaxed and comfortable in themselves. The changes happen in a way that feels natural, for instance, you may think about having an alcoholic drink but then you may decide not to have a drink. Just in the same way when you've had too many cups of tea or coffee if someone offers you another cup you say "no" as you just don't fancy one. The same thing happens with the alcohol, after the hypnosis you find yourself having less interest in drinking alcohol.  My methods used have been tried and tested with hundreds of one to one clients and thousands of people have successfully taken back control of their drinking by listening to my alcohol hypnosis recordings.

    Before Hypnosis, Steven said "I can't keep drinking like this. It is ruining my life, career, and relationships."

    After Hypnosis Steven said "I am thinking about alcohol less. I don't automatically reach for a drink when I get home from work. I feel I have some control over my choices. I am less stressed and don't wake in the middle of the night, in fact, I am sleeping better."

    For more information please contact me  or visit my website for my prices

    Recommended - You can read more about achieving alcohol reduction in chapter 13 of Ailsa's book "Cut the Crap and Feel Amazing" published by Hay House. Also, try hypnosis downloads, titles include "Take Control of Alcohol", "Stop Binge Drinking for Women" and "Stop Binge Drinking for Men".


  • Tips to let go of excess summer drinking

    Too much drinking this summer? Here are my tips to let go of excess summer drinking

    Summer might be a time to let your hair down with more socialising, holiday drinking or having a glass of wine in the garden but if you are struggling to keep your drinking under control my tips will give you a few pointers to change your mindset.

    Here are some tips to help you:

    1) Visualise yourself living your life without alcohol. Say 'I can be in control. I am in control. I make healthy choices.'

    2) Take a few minutes to work out what the main stresses are in your week. Stress often triggers the need to drink. Gradually work through each problem by making small changes to the way you live your life. Remember a big problem is only a series of small things which usually can be easily resolved. By sorting through the layers of stress you can begin to get back in control of your life and your drinking too.

    3) Use your phone camera to make a photo drink diary by photographing everything you drink (alcoholic and non-alcoholic). This way you will really see what you are consuming. Share the pictures with a supportive friend so that you have to face up to what you are drinking.

    You can read on my blog, click here, about a client who recently took control of alcohol with my one to one phone sessions. Joanne is a married busy mum of two who also runs a successful business. Like most people who drink regularly, alcohol habits gradually creep up over time. It is all too easy to reach for a glass of wine or a beer when the pace of life gets on top of you. For lots of busy working parents alcohol can be the glue holding your life together. Hypnotherapy deals with the stresses as well as breaking the bad habits. A one to one hypnosis session will be tailored for you to deal with any issues which you may be facing such as work pressures, family stresses or financial worries. Alternatively, you can try my hypnosis downloads which you can listen to at bedtime. Take Control of Alcohol breaks daily drinking habits whilst Stop Binge Drinking helps you get in control of bouts of excess.

    Take control of alcohol
    Reduce alcohol safely by changing the bad drinking habits in your subconscious mind. Release cravings and let go of emotional or boredom drinking. Improve sleep patterns, boost confidence to feel relaxed with less alcohol. Two short tracks to fit into your busy schedule.

    Recommended - You can read more about taking control of alcohol in chapter 13 of Ailsa's book Cut the Crap and Feel Amazing published by Hay House. Also, try hypnosis downloads, titles include Take Control of Alcohol, Stop Binge Drinking for Women and Stop Binge Drinking for Men.


  • Stop drinking stories

    Some stories from my clients who I've helped to stop drinking

    Dan's story

    I have been using "Take Control of Alcohol" to stop drinking for close to 2 weeks now and I have to say that I am very very impressed. It is still early obviously, but so far the effect has been undeniable. I also have to say that I am blown away by your ability to put me under every single time I listen. I've tried other online hypnotists before and have had mixed success. Something about your tone, cadence, and style just nuke me every time. :-) It is so easy to go under for you and I love it. I am very grateful and appreciative of this recording and I plan to buy more. I've seen some other hypnotists online with recordings like that but after experiencing you I don't think they can compare. Your newest fan.

    Carolyn's story

    I’m 62 years of age and a product of parents who grew up during the war. Consequently, when I began my singing career at age 15,  drinks during a set break was all part of the game.  I grew into it or I should say fell into it. I had made myself a promise at age 8 that I would never drink like my father.  The only time he was coherent was at 7am before he went off to work.  I never invited friends home from school for fear of what I might find.  We lived fairly well. My mother was a kindergarden teacher who I know worked very hard at keeping us all going but she drank too.  She never seemed to have a problem though.  She could turn it off after a couple.  My dad and I could not. He died at 67 after several strokes.    I’ve tried many times over the years to stop because you can only quit once. I tried AA too. I’m glad I purchased 2 of your tapes.  My youngest daughter (20 years) of my 4 children seems to have an issue that the other kids don't have.  My first husband drank a lot so perhaps the older three saw and were more resilient to what can happen when you drink to excess.  My second husband doesn’t drink at all unless I offer it to him.  He never bought me a bottle of wine, unless I asked him to. And that didn’t happen very often.  A thing he said to me some 22 years ago was, “if you’re going to drink,  do it at home where no one can see you”.  Now, what kind of advice is that!   I spent a good deal of time alone.   I knew it was time to stop drinking. Anyway suffice to say,  I believe I have a great command of my situation now thanks to you.  I’ve listened to the hypnosis downloads on my computer every night and I wake up in the morning now having to rub my eyes to get the sleep out of them.  I shall continue on this path.  I’m not promising myself that I won’t have a glass or two of wine for a special occasion, but I feel confident that after two,  I will know how to stop. Thank you because no one does it alone!

    Matt's story

    Since I bought your book I am feeling better about life. I sought help to stop drinking due to a heartbreak issue. I just want to let you know I'm still reading the book in small hits before I go to sleep at night and it's having a positive effect. I find myself in everyday situations quietly referring back to techniques in the book and it truly is changing me. My outlook is more positive and I just feel better about things. I find it helps to tell people that I'm reading your book and to tell them what I'm feeling. Some close people have noticed the change and want to borrow the book! I just tell them to go and buy their own copy!! I just wanted to let you know how I'm getting on!

    Lisa's story

    I just felt compelled to write a quick testimonial, I would never normally leave reviews or anything of the sort. However, in all honesty, the "Stop Binge Drinking for Women" download has changed my life! Haha not to sound dramatic but it has. Moderation is something I struggle with in life, be it trying to get fit, I go crazy for a fortnight and then exhaust myself and give up, likewise with food, money plans, study and of course alcohol! I wouldn't say I had a problem with alcohol as such - although my mother did worry as alcoholism runs in the family - I just binged completely. And sometimes I was a nice drunk and everything was fine but, oh god, sometimes my alter ego (we called her psycho Lisa) would make an appearance. She only made a few appearances over the years but I'm still reminded of them. As I started getting older my hangovers were steadily getting worse and worse and worse. To the point that a few hours of drunken fun that I could never remember anyway would lead to two days of illness. Not to mention the fear, depression and regret over things I may or may not have done, it was all a little blurry.

    The thing is I'm Irish! When I declared boldly on a Sunday that I was never drinking again, everyone else cheered and agreed and yet we would all be in the very same state the next Sunday, and so on! When I finally gave up drinking and even now when I meet people, they find it difficult to grasp that they have encountered a sober Irish person. It's a touch degrading still but such is our stereotype I suppose. The people that gave me the most hassle for giving up drink were actually not Irish, I think they didn't quite like the idea that I was no longer the drunken Irish friend. For a long time, they could rest easy about any mistakes they made on a night out as usually I had been drunker and had made bigger and even more ridiculous mistakes. So yes that took a while for people to grasp.

    Anyway, it all came to a head in May and I decided I was simply fed up and exhausted of being hungover, being regretful and yet still anticipating the upcoming Friday after work drinkies! I turned to the internet in hopes of a miracle. This is when I stumbled across your website, at first I dismissed it as a bit silly as if hypnotherapy would really work to stop drinking. However like I said I was desperate, it couldn't hurt, I downloaded the tracks and I have never looked back. Within a week, I was out socialising with a big group of friends I would usually feel that I needed a good few drinks to feel fun and sociable around. I had one glass of cider which I couldn't even finish. I was amazed, it must just be a fluke. Nope since that very first week, my craving for alcohol is completely gone. In the 5 and a half months since I started listening to the downloads, I've had a handful of drinks and feel fantastic!

    As I now no longer waste all my free time being hungover, I end up heading out and socialising more than I ever have. I have lost over a stone in weight, just by simply having the energy to go for a quick run and not gorging on fast food whilst hungover. I managed to save an absolute fortune, simply from not drinking and went travelling in Europe for the month of August. Life is fantastic.

    Not only has the "Stop Binge Drinking for Women" download been so helpful, I also started listening to the "Build confidence and self-esteem" download and I really really cannot thank you enough. I just feel so happy in my own skin and happy with the way my life is going. I feel like these downloads have set me free, there was always so many things I wanted to do and places I wanted to go but I was trapped in my old habits and lifestyle. Finally, I can achieve these goals whilst also maintaining a fantastic social life, I did worry that I would become a sort of hermit and not want to be around drunk people if I was going to remain sober but that has not been the case. Ok little rant over, thank you so much and all the best for the future!

    Sam's story

    I have to say this and I hope it doesn't sound over the top: Your recordings have changed my life and I am so incredibly grateful that I found your site. I am blown away by how effective your hypnosis mp3s are. No one else compares to you. I actually had so much incredible success with the alcohol stop drinking recording that I decided to buy three more sets of mp3s! I've been training myself with the weight loss for men set for about 2 weeks and the effect has been undeniable. I'm down 8 pounds and feeling leaner than I have in a long time. Next, I'll try the financial mp3 and then confidence. I just ordered a copy of your book "Cut The Crap and Feel Amazing" too as you suggested. :-)  Can't wait to receive it. Thank you!!

    For more information about hypnosis download recordings to stop drinking visit my shop

    Recommended - my hypnosis recordings "Take Control of Alcohol", "Stop Binge Drinking for Women" and "Stop Binge Drinking for Men"


  • Drinking too much alcohol?

    Help! Why am I drinking too much?  

    You have probably spent your whole life surrounded by alcohol which normalises it in your mind.  Most people know family, friends or work colleagues who drink regularly. TV commercials for alcoholic drinks are regularly on television. Whilst advertisers use alcohol to promote other products such as sofa and kitchens which sometimes show someone with a glass of wine or a bottle of wine as a prop designed to sell you a lifestyle. British TV programs such as Eastenders, Emmerdale, and Coronation Street are based on people drinking in the pub. This is all building subliminal messages to your subconscious mind so it actually feels weirder not to drink alcohol than drink excessively. This is why hypnotherapy is a real solution to combat alcohol habits.

    Your drinking habits build up like layers of an onion, every time your drink you are reinforcing the behaviour which builds habits around the alcohol and the emotions you feel at the time. The drinking layers include the emotions you feel at those times;

    • Stress
    • Boredom
    • Worries
    • Concern
    • Social pressure to drink
    • Drinking for the sake of it
    • Happiness having fun
    • Celebration
    • Switching off from daily life
    • To help you get to sleep
    • Cope with financial worries

     

    Drinking alcohol also may have masked confidence issues which usually begin at an earlier age. Hypnotherapy helps build your confidence as you let go of excess drinking.

    Just as someone learns to drive a car or tie their shoelaces, once you have learned to do something it is hard to forget it. In the same way, once you have learned to drink alcohol in a certain way it is hard to change the habit. On top of this, you have the cravings to deal with as most people like the taste. You may be rewarding yourself with alcohol after a hard day and you may look forward to a drink for social enjoyment.  All of these feelings make it harder to stop drinking. This is why without re-setting your subconscious mind using hypnotherapy it can be difficult to take back control of alcohol.

    The best time to start taking back control is right now. Remember, anyone who drinks regularly can become an alcoholic. For those people who become alcoholics, it creeps up on them as they begin to rely on alcohol more and more. No alcoholic would imagine it could happen to them. It only takes a few life events to push you further to increase your drinking to out of control levels. An unexpected redundancy, a financial stress, family illness or bereavement can all play a part in increased alcohol consumption.

    My system of alcohol reduction will help you take back control, I recommend ‘Take control of alcoholfor everyday drinkers who want to break the habit and ‘Stop binge drinking for Women’ or ‘ Stop binge drinking for Men’ for those who drink bouts of excess alcohol. Or if you want one to one hypnotherapy phone appointments contact me through the website.

    Chapter 13 of my book "Cut The Crap and Feel AMAZING" covers addictions and obsessions and will help to break alcohol habits.


  • 4 Tips to Break Addictive Alcohol Habits

    Try my 4 tips to break addictive alcohol habits

    Firstly, Identify the stresses and emotions that fuel your alcohol addiction. Then you can begin to deal with those issues and change your relationship with alcohol to set yourself free from the old drinking behaviour. 

    Why am I drinking too much?

    You need to focus on making changes that will break the repetitive habit of routinely reaching for alcohol. Regularly drinking alcohol creates a pattern in your subconscious in the same way we learn anything from repeating the behaviour.  The first time you do something, it can be difficult but over time what you have learnt becomes second nature. Your drinking habits have become second nature which is why it can be difficult to break out of the routine. You have to remember there is an addictive side to alcohol which creates positive brain chemicals which make you feel good. But gradually the enjoyment of alcohol is marred by the side effects, but by then you could be hooked.

    Why does hypnotherapy work?

    Hypnotherapy is a treatment which gives you the opportunity to release alcohol addiction from the subconscious mind, which is done by breaking habits and releasing cravings, so you lose the interest in drinking. But hypnosis can be used to take you into a relaxed state of mind which can then be used to shift your thought patterns around alcohol and create a new relationship with drinking. The hypnotherapy achieves this by forming new alcohol beliefs in the subconscious. Do the following experiment to prove to yourself that it is possible to adapt to something new.

    Understanding your behaviour

    Try moving the rubbish or garbage bin in your kitchen. For a while, you will keep going back to the old place, but before long you will get used to the bin being somewhere else and will go to it automatically, without having to think about it. It’s the same thing with an alcohol addiction or bad habit that you want to change: you need to change the behaviour and do it over and over again until you get used to the new way of being. It works because you store the habit in your subconscious mind and, once you have reprogrammed yourself, it will become natural for you to behave in a new way. The same will happen when you change your alcohol habits, and eventually, you will get used to the changes which will override the old ones forming a new alcohol habit. Hypnosis for changing alcohol habits fast tracks the process.

    You invested time in learning your addictive alcohol behaviour. You the, therefore,d to spend time breaking the alcohol habit too.

    4 Tips to break bad alcohol habits

    4 tips to break addictive alcohol habits 4 tips to break addictive alcohol habits

    1) Saying: "I won't drink alcohol this week" and then as soon as the week starts you have a drink and decide to stop another day.

    How to break the habit of drinking alcohol:

    Make as many small changes in your day so that you break some of the familiar habits which contribute to you alcohol drinking. For example, drive a different route home, get home at a slightly different time, change the evening routine, go straight for a shower after work, have sparkling water in a wine glass instead of alcohol. Self-talk positively "I can be in control, I am in control, I am sober". Visualise yourself without an alcoholic drink, visualise yourself having a herbal tea, brushing your teeth and getting into bed totally sober, see yourself waking in the morning refreshed.

    2) Saying: "I won't get stressed" but then finding yourself do just that which leads to an alcoholic drink later that evening.

    How to break the stress fuelling your drinking:

    Speak positively to yourself throughout the day "I can get this done really easily, I am getting more done in less time, I am finding ways to be relaxed." When you feel yourself rushing, feeling stressed or hear the tension in your voice, consciously pull back to avoid getting caught up in the drama and say to yourself "It's all working out fine, it is all resolving AMAZINGLY well, what if this is AMAZING."  Imagine your stresses passing like clouds in the sky, let them pass. Imagine everything has worked out well. The less stressed you are, the more in control of your alcohol habits you will be.

    3) Saying: "I won't spend money" and then allowing yourself to buy alcohol.

    How to break the habit of spending money on alcohol:

    Imagine all the people who have less than you and instantly you will feel more wealthy. Say to yourself "I am happy with what I have, my life is AMAZING and AMAZING things happen to me".  Visualise yourself going through your week without spending money on alcohol such as avoiding the alcohol section in the shop. Imagine having more money saved each week from not buying alcohol.  Set up a savings account specifically for the money you would have spent on alcohol, with monthly payments to build up your funds. Even if you think you can't afford to save start saving you need to begin saving now. When people stop or reduce their alcohol drinking, they find they have a lot more spare money. Set a goal of something healthy you would like to do such as a spa day, a flying lesson, a Ferrari track day..., build your alcohol fund to pay for it at some point in the future.

    4) Saying: "I will eat healthy foods" which you manage all day but then you get home and snack on foods which you associate with drinking alcohol.

    How to break the habit of eating junk food when drinking alcohol:

    Change your routine when you get home such as having a shower then change into a comfortable tracksuit, sit in a different chair to eat your dinner and sitting on a different seat in front of the TV.  Also, move the snacks in the kitchen to another cupboard so your mind doesn't slip into old comfortable habits which may trigger alcohol habits.  Do yoga stretches whilst you watch TV also try drinking herbal tea.  The more healthy a routine you create the least likely you will be to want an alcoholic drink. Visualise a red triangle in your mind imagine putting the cravings into the triangle and shrinking it down until they are gone.  Visualise your healthy routine without alcohol in your mind the last thing at night and first thing in the morning.

    Hypnotherapy sessions or hypnosis recordings allow you to make alcohol habit breaking changes on a subconscious level. You can read more on each of the product pages of my hypnosis downloads:

    "Take Control of Alcohol"

    "Stop Binge Drinking for Women"

    "Stop Binge Drinking for Men"

    One-to-one hypnotherapy appointments Click for more information

    Also, read my addictions chapter in my book Cut the Crap and Feel Amazing published by Hay House (available as a paperback, ebook, kindle, and audio).


  • Stressed Mum who wanted to get sober

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    Parents have never been under so much pressure with work and family stresses meaning turning to drinking alcohol for comfort after work is a common way to cope

    Karen, 45, a busy successful working Mum, reduced her alcohol drinking habits after listening to my hypnosis downloads for alcohol reduction. Read about how she became more confident, less stressed generally, drank less and banished sleepless nights. Hypnotherapy is a great way to quickly break long established bad drinking habits which can be quite life-changing for many people. As a hypnotherapist, I love working with alcohol reduction as I have seen how it takes over peoples lives but I also know how easy it is to break the bad habits when you shift the root of the problem on a subconscious level. It is very satisfying work to see people back in control of their lives in a short space of time. I interviewed Karen to see first hand how the recordings had reshaped her relationship with alcohol.

    Before listening to the hypnosis for alcohol reduction:

    How much alcohol were you drinking and how often?

    I wouldn't drink a lot during the week. Maybe a small glass of wine three nights a week. But then we have something we call red wine Friday, with friends from my son’s school. It would happen most Fridays from 6pm ish, we would gather at one of our houses and try new varieties of red wine that we had discovered or enjoy old favourites. Sometimes, I would just share a bottle of wine with a friend, other times we would go all out and I would drink a bottle and perhaps a few liqueurs. Invariably I felt hungover the next day. On Saturday if I was feeling very hungover, I wouldn't drink, otherwise, I would have a small glass of wine at home. Perhaps two glasses of wine on a Sunday or a cocktail and if we went to a friend’s house for lunch on Sunday where I would consume at least another half bottle of wine. If there was a school function, I would drink at least a bottle of champagne or a bottle of wine.

    How has your alcohol drinking increased over the years?

    I’ve always drunk too much. From when I first started drinking at about the age of 15/16. My mother had a drinking problem, and I guess I took my cue from her. But I barely drank when I was pregnant with my children and my drinking definitely decreased when the kids were small. I was breastfeeding so I couldn’t drink and when they wake up so early, the thought of having a hangover is just too unbearable.

    Was there an event in your life which triggered drinking more alcohol?

    I started drinking more when my son started school. He goes to a private school where some of the parents think they are incredibly special and I found that a few glasses of wine definitely made them more bearable. We’ve also been through some very tough times financially and this coincided with first my mother-in-law dying of cancer and then my mother being diagnosed with bowel cancer.  I definitely started hitting the bottle more regularly. I even took some of her anti-emetics for cancer after one really good alcohol binge! After she died, there was an awful lot of “celebrating her life” with champagne.

    Is there pressure to drink more alcohol from friends or family? How?

    Definitely. I come from a long and proud line of alcoholics, and I’ve tended to choose friends who are the same. That was one of my biggest anxieties, how people would react if I cut down on my drinking. I’m usually the life and soul of a party, I was worried about what they would say, and also if I would find them all boring, without a few drinks inside me. It was a big concern for me.

    Before listening to the hypnosis alcohol recording what was your sleep like, were you waking in the night?

    During the week if I kept to my one small glass of red wine, and I drank it after I had eaten something, I wasn’t too bad. But as soon as I went over one glass or drank on an empty stomach, I wouldn’t sleep. The weekends were a nightmare. I often had a terrible night’s sleep after red wine Friday. If we had a long lunch on Sunday, I would barely be able to work on Monday.

    Has your alcohol drinking ever caused you embarrassment?

    Without a doubt. I get outrageous when I drink. I did backward rolls on my friend’s dining room table after a particularly good Sunday lunch, I’ve danced on the table at events at my son’s school (which is not unusual, there is a group that tends to get out of hand). I’ve told the headmaster he’s got a small penis (I really wouldn’t know having never seen it) I’ve been ridiculously flirty…the list goes on!

    How would you sum up how you felt about your alcohol drinking in a sentence?

    Drinking doesn’t make me happy.

    Where did you drink alcohol?

    Being a parent I mostly drank alcohol at school events and at friends’ houses.

    Did you need alcohol to give you confidence or help you have a good time?

    I like the feeling of abandonment that alcohol gives me. It also helps when you’re hosting your own party or dinner party and you’re feeling anxious.

    After listening to the Ailsa Frank alcohol hypnosis recordings:

    I had been mulling over trying out hypnosis to stop drinking for a couple of years now. But the crunch for me came, not after the weekend of binge drinking we’d just had, but after a lunch, I went to at a girlfriend’s house on a Tuesday after the kids had gone on holiday. It was a really interesting group of women, people I didn’t know very well and I suppose I felt a slight need to impress. I drank alcohol far too quickly and immediately started getting that feeling of being out of control. I don’t actually like the initial feeling and I usually drink more alcohol to get to that real feeling of I-don’t-care-about-anything. I knew I had work to do, so I didn’t go too berserk. I probably had two to three glasses of wine and then an espresso to wake me up.  But that evening I hit such a downer, I didn’t know what to do. I felt just so depressed, and not because I had said anything embarrassing or done anything wrong, I just realised that too much alcohol or drinking when I’m stressed or unhappy is basically a recipe for more unhappiness.

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    That was the 13th August. I think I got the hypnosis binge drinking downloads the next day. The alcohol hypnosis downloads initially just made me want to sleep. At first, I listened to the long one, and I did it every day. I didn’t have a problem not drinking during the week but I was anxious for the weekend because I knew that the family was coming around for my son’s birthday on the Sunday and I was worried that I would drink too much. I got my husband to make me a mojito with one capful of rum and I drank that and a half a glass of wine the whole afternoon and evening. My brother-in-law got very drunk but I was pleased to find that I didn’t find him irritating, just endearing.

    Becoming sober

    I carried on listening to the hypnotherapy downloads, not always every day, but I was finding that I was sleeping better and despite the fact that I was very stressed about work and the kids were on holiday, I had more patience and less road rage! I also had quite an emotional response to the second hypnosis recording about your inner child. My daughter looks just like me, so every time the recording mentioned my inner child, I just pictured her and I got a real sense of how I was not being a good enough mother to her, not just with my drinking, with everything. I found that that recording reduced me to tears more than once.

    The next time I drank was nearly two weeks later

    It was a very strong mojito when we went out to dinner as a family. I didn’t enjoy it and I wished that I had ordered the virgin one. We then went to a family wedding, with my husband’s family who also likes a bit of a party, but I had one sherry and a glass of wine the whole night. My biggest hurdle was when my friends got back from Italy and we had our first red wine Friday after the holidays. I listened to the short hypnosis downloads twice that day and for the first time it felt automatic, I didn’t need to remind myself not to down my drink (which is my downfall). The host poured me an enormous glass of red wine (think Cougar Town size!) as I arrived, and I made it last the whole evening. I drank water, I didn’t let anyone top up my wine glass and it felt completely natural. The host got fairly merry, but again, it didn’t worry me. I went home at a reasonable time, I had a good night’s sleep. It was brilliant!

    The last hurdle was sports’ day at my daughter’s school where we usually start on the champagne as soon as the bar opens. I usually find myself anxious to have the first glass, mostly because I find the competitiveness of some of the parents at these schools quite hard to take. But I drank coffee and tea, and even when two girls were particularly unkind to my daughter – they invited her to play and then told her she couldn’t come - I didn’t feel the need to drink, I just wanted to take her home.

    This is what I have found since I’ve started listening to the alcohol hypnosis downloads and have cut down on my drinking:

    • I’ve slept better
    • I’m less hormonal
    • I’ve been more motivated as far as work goes. (I’m a Film scriptwriter)
    • I’ve definitely been more careful with money
    • I’ve recognised that I don’t need to spend time with people who make me feel bad about myself – I think I used the drinking as a way of giving me Dutch courage to cope with that type of person
    • I’m more focused on my children in a good way. Not in a hovering way. Just in the sense that I want to spend time with them doing fun things. It’s just made me more aware of being a good parent, of being there for them, instead of slumping in front of the TV with a glass of wine or going to a friend’s house and letting them get on with it while we all get pissed!
    • I don’t know if I would feel comfortable in every situation but I definitely feel a lot better about not having a drink in my hand.

    I have enjoyed these hypnosis downloads so much, I’m going to try the weight loss one!

    I am amazed at how I go to social gatherings and I do not even feel like downing a glass of wine like I used to. It just sits there, and I sip it and I’m fine…it really, really works!

    "Cut the Crap & Feel Amazing" by Hay House
    "Take Control of Alcohol" Hypnosis Recording
    "Stop Binge Drinking for Women" Hypnosis Recording
    "Stop Binge Drinking for Men" Hypnosis Recording

     

     


  • Alcohol binge drinking feast at Royal Ascot

    This is the week when the village of Ascot rocks with lively partygoers who binge drink alcohol at the sophisticated Royal Ascot racing. The rest of the year it is a pretty peaceful place to live

    Royal drinking feast at Ascot Alcohol flowing at Royal Ascot

    In the calendar, the third week in June is home to Royal Ascot. Luckily the weather is sunny today which will make it an all-round better experience. There is nothing worse than summer frocks and high heels in the rain, all that mud, chilly wind, and hats blowing off!  Having lived in Ascot and the surrounding area for the past 12 years I am used to the routine of avoiding the town during the royal racing week. Although having said that if you pop into the high street between 2pm and 5pm you would find more life in a ghost town. All the cars, coaches and limos are parked up in the car parks, the racegoers are safely inside the grounds, small local shops and the doctors' surgery are closed. The traffic cones are on duty and the police are taking a coffee break before the drunks spill out onto the streets when the betting finishes. This is a great time to drive past the course to take a peek through the railings at the eccentric hats, latest fashions, top hats and tails which are all a truly wonderful sight.

    The bars inside the Ascot grounds charge extortionate prices for alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks. Quite a few people have told me they planned not to drink too much but when they realised the Ascot racecourse bars charged the same money for a bottle of water as for a bottle of beer which puts them off buying a soft drink. My advice would be to take your own drinks with you where possible although I am not sure if you will be allowed to take drinks through the main entrance. Otherwise, have a drink in the local pub before going into the ground.

    Binge Drinking

    Social events can put pressure on you to binge drink. If you are able to listen to hypnosis downloads to reduce alcohol intake in the days running up to a day out at the races you would benefit. The good thing about hypnosis to reduce drinking is that you will actually feel comfortable drinking less and confident without a drink in your hand in the company of friends but you won't feel that you are missing out as you'll still have a great time.

    Gary's story

    "I felt it was a bit boring to be listening to the hypnosis for reducing alcohol before the Ascot racing event but on the day I was glad I had. I often feel a real peer pressure to drink too much with friends but this year I drank sensibly, spent less and had a better time than before. I now listen to the recordings before a big night out with the lads or before a wedding type event. It puts me back in control but I still have a good laugh"

    Boozy Day Out

    If you ever find yourself in Ascot after the racing finishes you will view quite a different picture to before the racing begins. The sophistication of the arrival of the ladies and gentlemen to welcome the Queen in her carriage soon becomes a booze-fuelled binge drinking event. The only winners are the cash tills of the pop-up bars which charge extortionate prices for all drinks whether soft or alcoholic. Many people won't remember much about the day as it becomes an alcohol-infused blur.

    Ladies Day

    Yesterday I was shopping at a local shop, I asked if they would be attending Royal Ascot this year, "No," the owner said, "I haven't been for years not since the young people spoiled it with so much alcohol." It is true there is so much drinking during this week. It is scary how people think it is okay to bombard themselves with so much alcohol in such a short time frame. I am not into counting alcohol units as I believe once you have the need to start counting you are already drinking too much alcohol, instead be sensible, use your brain - a couple of drinks occasionally which is probably safe and healthy. Anything in life in buckets loads is not a good thing such as over-exercising, overworking, overeating and of course over drinking alcohol. The shop owner joked that Ladies Day at Royal Ascot could be more appropriately named Tramps Day. Increasing numbers of the women get so drunk they stagger, fall over or lay in doorways half asleep. I have been to Royal Ascot a few times, it is a great day out but each year the drinking just gets worse. The ladies powder room is a swill with swaying women teetering on their high heels with smudged lipstick, claggy weeps of mascara all of whom think no one has noticed they are bluntly drunk.

    Champagne Flowing

    These days equality means Women can drink as much as Men and for both sexes, it is not a good look. Think before you drink too much alcohol. Do you really want to end up totally sloshed after all the investment to get yourself ready for the big day? Is it really a good day out or could it be better with less alcohol? People are wasting their money on alcohol and risking their health too without even being aware of what they are doing. I urge people to take back control of their alcohol drinking to take back control of their lives and future. I have helped thousands of people reduce down their drinking with hypnotherapy sessions and hypnosis downloads. You don't need to stop drinking altogether. Have a great day out with a couple of drinks if you want. Enjoy getting dressed up but keep your dignity by avoiding throwing up in the gutter, sitting on the kerb with your head hung in your lap or be carried home by your friends, girlfriend, wife, boyfriend or husband. Bring back the Royal Ascot sophistication, please.

    Chapter 13 of my book "Cut The Crap & Feel Amazing" by Hay House gives techniques for reducing alcohol
    Also, try my hypnosis recordings, available as downloads
    "Take Control of Alcohol"
    "Stop Binge Drinking for Women"
    "Stop Binge Drinking for Men"


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